D20 is doing okay. Still gets nauseous a lot, and is worried about her future, but it's to be expected. We still haven't heard anything back on her Medicaid application, even though it's been over a month, and that's been nervewracking. The government red tape is simply unbelievable. Her pregnancy isn't covered under my health insurance at work, so we really need that to come thru, and we pray about it every day.
W and I -- wow, how much time you got? After 20 years of a sex-starved marriage, her affair and our reconciliation two years ago, several near-brushes with divorce and then re-reconciliation (is that a word??), we have decided to try a separation. She and D20 will stay in a rental house about two miles away, I will remain in this house, and the boys will share time between the two. I will still pick up S13 and take him to school every morning, and will stop at the rental house on my way home from work Mon-Thurs evenings and make dinner for the boys, as my wife works evenings. So we'll still all see a ton of each other.
The weird thing is, the more we've moved toward this, the closer me and the fetching Mrs. Puppy have gotten! We decided to "date" each other again, and she even went first, asking me out last nite! We had a really, really nice time, as she treated me -- with her own $$$ -- to dinner at one of our favorite spots, where we lingered over a few glasses of wine, and she even gave me a really nice card thanking me for all of the help with the move and getting the new house set up. Since we're still all in this house together, and the rental house is partially furnished and they're not moving into it until next weekend, after a heavily flirtatious dinner and wine we headed to the rental house to break it in properly.
It was a really nice time.
We both fully believe we'll get back together at some point -- she thinks a few months, and I think maybe after a year or two. But there's just been way too much growth in both of us -- especially her -- in the run-up to this for me to NOT think it's a good thing. She is getting the independence that she never had in going directly from living with her parents to living with me after we married, and I am getting some much-needed time and space to rediscover who Puppy is, and the kids are doing remarkably well.
There's a whole lot more backstory to this, but that's the shorter version. I'm feeling happier and emotionally healthier than I have at any point in the past year, I've lost some weight and the family is pulling together like never before. I can see God truly doing in a work in our ENTIRE FAMILY, on a daily basis, and -- as Martha Stewart would say -- "that is a good thing."
Thanks, H4U, and to all of you who have asked about me. I'm sorry I haven't been on here more, but my life has been really hectic with the pending move and everything going on with D20.
That's interesting news. Sounds like a lot of "dropping the rope" across the board. I am glad you are doing well.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
"I can see God truly doing in a work in our ENTIRE FAMILY, on a daily basis ..."
Puppy,
Nice! And I have a story to share ...
Went to church yesterday to hear my favorite priest. The sermon was about how God is here, right now, right here in this room and in your room, and in everyone's heart to heal and soothe us, heal our hearts and heal our souls. I put my head down and started weeping (as usual). And he kept on preaching long after I thought he'd be done. Then, suddenly, I wiped my eyes and looked up. He was looking straight at me, in the back of the church, behind hundreds of people, and almost abruptly, ended his sermon. It was the eeriest feeling.
Later on in the day, my heart felt so much better. I believe the Holy Spirit was with me for sure. Just thought you'd like that story. I'll be adding to my forgiveness thread.
Puppy, Please forgive the hijack but you are the "go-to" man on the message boards here. Please help Lost41. Her son tried to commit suicide last week. I think in part to the father leaving and having no visitation with the children (my interpretation). I am really worried abut her and her children.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
