Since he's OK with this, let's just get it over with". It seems to me that would relieve any guilt she may be feeling and give her impetus to move forward with the D.
Well, if that's all it took, you seeming to be okay with this for her to proceed with D, then I guess you didn't really have a chance anyway. Do you want her to not finish filling out the paperwork only because she would feel guilty because you are crushed by this? If guilt is the only thing keeping you from divorce, I'd say that it's better you relieve her of that.
Honestly, I believe that many times it doesn't matter what you do, you'll still end up divorced. She's already reached the point she thinks that's the better course. What you need to do is plant a seed of doubt in her mind. Is being pathetically crushed a seed of doubt or does it just make them pity you? Is being strong, confident, driven, and happy make them wonder what they might miss out on? That's the hope. If you try to shove it down her throat by contacting her to show it, she'll just doubt the sincerity of your changes. I truly believe the old saw that if you love something to let it go...if it comes back it's yours. You are letting her go. Now move forward with your life and see if she comes back. If she doesn't, I guess she wasn't your afterall.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
