It definately does take two, im finding that out the hard way.
I will be true to my family; I will be true to my son. But I no longer have a reason to be true to my wife. AND or those of you who say “you are still married” My marriage ended along time ago. It’s time to pull the plug on the life support that I have been trying so hard to keep. If it survives then great. If it dies the it was meant to be.
Being true to your son would be not giving up. And, I am one of those that says "you are still married."....I find myself shaking my head at what you just said.
I can tell you this: Your marriage is not close to being over, and just because you have an opportunity arising where you may come in contact with someone of the opposite sex, with no responsibilities to rush home to (meaning work), that does NOT mean you have the right to have an affair. You are still married, and your marriage isNOT done.
Believe me, you are thinking about playing with fire., And, if your marriage starts turning around, you WILL get burned. This is NOT the time to throw someone else into your marriage. Even if you were divorced today, you are no where near ready to be with someone else. YOur emotions are all over the place, and you are lonesome, needy, and haven't ever detached enough to just be happy with yourself for an extended period of time. Detach, but don't go around messing around. Bad idea. Just the fact that you seem to be saying, "There. I told you what I'm feeling, and if you don't do something ina few days, I'm off to go picking up chicks, and it's ok because I told you ahead of time."
I'm sounding so harsh, but I said those same things to myself. I wish I could have had somjeone that would have knocked some sense into my head and told me to shut up and stop acting like a child. It's nonsense, and because of my nonsense I'm dealing with a much bigger problem than I had before my affair.Married is married.
