I do agree, but at the moment there is no financial way for her to move out. I mean zero! So I am stuck in the "just life with it" area. I have no legal way to change the locks. She is trying to save up to get her own place, but that is a few months off. I did mention once a few months ago to just leave and she replied "well get a lawyer to make that happen". Of course I can't afford a lawyer....Overall I am in a lousy spot on the financial end of things. I did okay on the career path and had a good job that paid decent, better than average but not great. My wife being a SAHM did not contribute financially to the house, so there was no real savings and since being layed off...that is gone now too....so I am trapped.
Knowing that I am trapped financially, I just had to concede certain battles. Which sucks! The actually scarier reality for me is that the guy friend is moving soon (another victim of the economy) and my wife is starting to talk to the abusive GF again. My wife was worse mood wise when with her...I mean down right evil! She has already told me that she will start hanging out with ex-GF again once guy friend is gone.....then I may have to change the locks!
One thing I have learned through this..is I have to pick my battles very wisely and weigh all outcomes. Most of the battles I have passed on, and could be viewed as doormat type behavior, are ones were that I feel will negatively impact my children. Is it better to have a wife not here and out with guy friend or have her hear all moody and taking it out on the kids and I?
Just to clarify...I do think my wife is in a severe MLC (withdrawal stage is my guess at current phase) and wants nothing to do with my kids or I. So would you leave your kids with some one who doesn't want to be a parent? Or would you rather have that parent be gone as mush as possible? Sometimes having a peaceful house may mean being a doormat, but that is still better than a war zone!
