[/quote] This is the kind of poignant stuff that got my attention and made me want to take the approach I did with my W in the first place. I just wish there was a way I or someone could reach my W to let her know Big John gets it! And that I can and will give her what she wants and needs. [/quote]
John - in the same boat as well. I know what I've done wrong. I've told her I did wrong and would be better. I want to "romance" her again, to show her that I mean it. But, that's not what she needs. She needs time and space. She needs me not to chase her. I want to buy her flowers and end up ignoring her text messages. Seems like I'm doing all the wrong things - but based on what I have read from Sandy and others here, it's what I need to do. I need to keep coming back here to remind me of that. It's hard. Her BF is unemployed, in a marraige that is dead, he sits around all day at home texting my W 40 times a day. Still don't see what is there - but there must be something. I know this guy too and he is actively pursing her - she doesn't see that; just the attention he is paying her.
