so did your D or the C tell your husband what came out in counseling??? it may registar if it comes from someone other than you...coming from you he may be thinking it's same ole, same ole......but if it comes from D or the C then he may get it...
It came from me because he refused to go to any of their C appointments, even though he was invited on many occasions. He won't ask D8, because then he might actually have to hear the answer. His family is very practiced at the art of If We Pretend It Doesn't Exist, Then It Doesn't Exist. Many of their issues are as bad as they are because they refuse to acknowledge or validate the situation. Its very much a Scarlett O'Hara mentality...Oh fiddle-dee-dee, I won't think about that today, Ah'l think about that tomorroah. They are very in tune with their own feelings, but have a hard time allowing anyone else theirs, especially if that means they have wronged or hurt that person.
As for making up for what hes missed, I agree completely, but own up to it and move forward. Its the denial and venom attached to it that bothers me.
Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee
but this second opportunity...gave me another chance..
and I'm good at it...
But a second chance shouldn't be done at the expense of his oldest daughter though, right?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
