The counselor told me and DD8 confirmed it. Her words,"dad doesn't like me as much as DS13." She went on to say that he is always taking DS13 places and doing stuff with him and he doesn't with her and she thinks he doesn't "like" her. Now that the baby is in the picture and he is spending time with her she feels it even more.

I think that gets me more than anyone. That he babysits all the time, changes diapers, feeds her, etc...all the things he had the opportunity to do with mine and CHOSE not to do. That he offers and pusues time with this child and not my daughter breaks my heart. That really gets to me, but I have never said anything about it to anyone but him. He has tried to rewrite the past and say that she didn't WANT to be around him, but the truth was he didn't make much of an effort with her.

He makes a noticible difference between them and then gets upset when he is called on it. There are times when the kids tell him how they feel and he refuses to entertain it, let alone validate it and it comes from their mouths. She won't say it because she is afraid that he won't "like" her even more. I know she feels replaced and damnit, I can't help but feel that was a little too.

I think because I am her mother and I have been in her shoes before, that this is a real hot button issue with me. I know what people who are made to feel this way become and I don't want that for her.

M:39
H:39
K:S14;D8
T:22yr
M:15yrs
S:12/28/07 EA/PA
3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option