My sitch...long but please indulge me

[billclay18]

RSF,

Let me make sure I'm understanding you correctly. If my step D's happen to tell my W they talked to me and I sounded great, happy, etc. that's the impression my W will have of me. If that's what you're saying than my exchanges with step D's have been beneficial.

Here's a question for all of you then...if my W gets the impression I'm doing well and I'm fine with all of this, why wouldn't she just say to herself "Since he's OK with this, let's just get it over with". It seems to me that would relieve any guilt she may be feeling and give her impetus to move forward with the D. Maybe this is where that counter-intuitive thinking comes in.