Forgive AND forget?

[BeingMe]

Yes, I am calling it as I see it. Lookit, we can only perceive from our very limited vision here on the bb. You appear to defend your H's trifling improvements, but I see a dear friend (allbeit a virtual one) frittling away her life on a man who doesn't seem to care that much. If he did, he would man up and do the right thing, and have done that a long time ago. From my perception, your H makes baby steps, then retreats. He's been doing this for a long time. This is like a see-saw (since we like playground analogies 'round here) ... up 'n down, up 'n down!

I don't mention the good because they are so limited. And he is still not "home". All those li'l baby steps have gotten him nowhere near it or so it seems, IMHO.

I surely don't expect you to take my advice. I only give it out for you to maybe see what I see (again, limited to what you say on the bb), a different point of view. We sometimes get ourselves into a rut, and need a prod to get out of it before we get used to it. Perhaps, if he was presented with the reality of S and D, he might get his head out of his b*tt. But then maybe he won't. Depends on what you're willing to risk. Have you gotten so used to this rut, that you won't risk it to get free from it?

From the pics I've seen, you look dash-darned fine to me, and you are so pretty. I envy your hair. You must have strong core muscles from all the riding you do.

Anyway, from my experience, life does not slow down for anyone to wait for spouses to sort themselves out. It shoves you relentlessly from behind, and you gotta live it or it will live you.

Take care.