Hi Rose, I should have made myself clear that, yes, my dh did/does the same thing when dealing with desire. Historically, he would not allow me to touch him...would roll away, or position his body in such a way that made it impossible. One thing he has worked very hard on is to keep his mind OPEN to the suggestion of sex, even if he is not feeling terribly horny at the moment. It is hard to explain in writing but I know exactly what your H is doing and I know that mine is trying to eliminate that behavior. Not that he can't ever be not in the mood, but rather that he doesn't shy away from potentially sexual touches. For example he will allow me to rub his shoulders and stomach now, even if he's not sure where it will lead. There was a time when he would have stopped me instantly unless he wanted sex. Now he has embraced the idea that even if HE is not in the mood, that I might be and that both of our sexual needs deserve to be met. Well, I doubt this is making a lick of sense, so I'll sign off now. Just keep your hopes and spirits up and good luck tomorrow.
P.S. I think earlier when he asked if you were still tingling he was just wanting some reassurance that you DO appreciate his efforts. I think that one of the biggest fears of the LD spouse is that whatever they do, it is too little, too late and "never enough". I think he wanted to know that he can satisfy you. I don't blame you for not lying, but maybe explain to him later that it isn't the physical act of sex itself that gets you all tingly, but his enthusiasm.
