Stuck, it seems to be even more challenging to do something on my own now that my youngest is the only one with me. I did take advantage of his going to a middle school activity at church last night to run some errands and call a friend. The funny thing is that my middle child (S14) asked if he could come over, use the computer and spend some time with me. It was really nice.
ACJ, I agree that speaking to the kids anymore would just drive them away. I spoke to the counselor and he says that it is better that the kids aren't forced to choose. He recommends I speak with my W about not putting it on the kids, working out a schedule that makes sense. He said that while it may seem like a good idea to let the kids choose, they cannot fully understand the ramifications and will make questionable choices, further eroding their emotional well being. They may not like being told where they are to live or dislike being shuttled back and forth but it is the best solution.
As far as "me" time, I am challenged with finding something I like to do or to do something with at my age. I'm very sociable so doing things by myself seems a little depressing but finding someone else to do things with is a bit more challenging since most other people I know are couples.
For now, as I mentioned to Stuck, my youngest wants to be with me (until I broach the subject with my W about 50/50 living arrangements for the kids) so he and I are together a majority of the time.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
