If I were to guess I would think Gucci would want you to date to let your H know you're not waiting around for him...But he's much more experienced so I may be wrong.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Well I never saw that response coming... Good thing I was sitting down when I read it... In my opinion, I can't do that... I took a vow, I took a stand and I won't back down from that... Besides that would be a horrible example to set for my boys... I am trying to teach them to stand and fight for what you believe in and how would that look if I took up with another man? And isn't that just another form of cheating?
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Like I said I'm not sure that would be his response or not. If you look at other threads though when even the "threat" of the LBS dating is out there the WAS seems to start the pursuing.
I'm not going to say you should or shouldn't...BUT...What if you knew going out on a few dates, nothing serious, would save your M?
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Serenity - The Mac is BACK (with Mrs Mac over my shoulder) Whoop Whoop
You seem to be doing so well but worrying so very much. You need to carry on with GAL'ing nothing more nothing less. Let other people worry about if you're "dating". Get what I'm saying?
Honey - you have the tools, you have the support, you've seen results. What more could you want?
Carry on. Everything forward and trust in the Lord and YOURSELF.
He kissed me, hugged me told me he missed me and loves me then off he goes... Even when I pull away he still comes in for the kissing... (
If you don't want him to be physical with you (and why would you, when he's being physical with her), then don't let him. You are strong. Treat it as you would if any other man tried to kiss you when you didn't want to be kissed. (Well, maybe with a slightly lesser degree of violence but you know what I mean.) He doesn't own your body; you do. Let him feel the loss of it, all of it. He's trying to eat cake, to a degree .... don't let him. IMHO.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
Serenity I tend to side with you on dating.not sure I could do that either.especially with children involved.I do applaud your loyalty.it is a rare thing these days.
God Bless.
H 49 W 42 S 19 S 14 S 12 S 8 D 6 M 19 Bomb dropped 2/09 Separated 5/09 still hopeful, praying
Nice to see you Mac and wonderful to meet Mrs. Mac...
Hope all is going wonderfully for the 2 of you!
I was thinking of you this morning Mac and praying you were both well
I know - I know - Stop worrying...
Loads of Hugs to you both and don't be strangers!
Kett - Thank you for your advice... Last week we went through this dance... I was in my car and he leaned in and I pulled away until I was almost in the passengers seat... We still ended up kissing passionately... Like I said - The more I pull back - The more he comes around however I don't like feeling like the fallback... I don't like that at all... However I don't know what is going on in his head... I don't know if he is trying to reconnect with me or trying to see if he still has feelings etc... It isn't that I don't want him to be physical - I just want to be the ONLY one he is physical with
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I totally hear what you're saying. And you probably miss the passionate kisses, too; I know I would. It's just .... and this is totally my opinion, so take it for what it's worth .... but I don't think it's *good* for him to be able to get what he wants from you when you *aren't* the only one he's being physical with.
If he knows he has to power to overcome your choice to pull away by kissing you into a warm puddle of goo .... do you think that him knowing that will help or harm his respect for you as an individual who can make her own choices/maintain her own boundaries and isn't totally dependent on him?
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
