I think you're dead on. There's point where anything said just seems like a tool of manipulation to a WAS. I'm learning a lot about that myself. You could offer the cure for cancer and the WAS wouldn't want it. Wouldn't believe you anyway.
I don't see that your fam's involvement could help. But it could possibly do harm.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.