@Orangedog - too many nights behind the tap of the Shorenbegorrah Inn - legacy of a misspent youth, and too many conversations with legions of junior varsity Frank McCourts - props to hoosiermama.
@alive - I'm in Crappy Terminal at Overstressed Airport, having just spent nearly 2 hours stuck in an alert from my buddy Zig on Madhouse Freeway, en route to the Great White North, so I have to forgo linguistic style for raw efficiency in order to get to your many good and important points.
You shouldn't back off, friend, but I'm just not registering Your Point.
WAW's Love Language - it is within the realm of possibility that it has changed / she has evolved. But for years / decade, WOA didn't resonate, at least not openly. They'd be brushed off with a "You're sweet." That being said, she was all about WOA from friends - but her definition of friendship is a relationship of pure affirmation and support; you never challenge your friends, their beliefs, etc.
Motherhood - it is the case that mothering has not been her forte so far, but as FFF pointed out the other day, that will likely change now that she's forced by circumstances to get it sorted out, and she may well prove to be the better parent as the two, Themselves, go into adolescence. WAW describes herself as not having had a childhood in the sense of always wanting to be older and being treated as a little adult. She just doesn't like the world of children - whereas I don't think there's much better than running around in the backyard, going "booga-booga-booga!" while Themselves squeal and run in the sprinkler.
Okay, Annoying Airline is calling my flight. Off we go into the Wild Blue Yonder. See youse guys onna flip-side over by dere.
