In answer to your question, the pulling back.... No demands, no contact (unless it is an emergency about the kids), no ultimatums, nothing from me except validation/unconditional love.... I let him make the contact as I continue to move 2 steps forward and sometimes 5 steps back...
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~