Anyone have any experience with getting through to someone with major control issues?
People who want to control are usually very insecure about something and it is a way for them feel better. What is your wife afraid of?
W's mom is a real control monger. That's the start of it.
I am a pretty straight forward kind of guy who has always called it like I see it. I have not problems asking for what I want. W has gone along with my wants for a long time. (I didn't know she was going along...I thought that she just agreed). Therefore, she has felt controlled by me too.
Now she talks about losing freedom, identity, etc. Essentially she is afraid of losing control. She has been in control since this has started. She knows it. Now she has become the controlling one. (she doesn't see this yet though)
It's hard for a guy like me to get all of this. If you want to be your "true self" just do it. If you want to be heard...speak up. That's always been how I thought. I can see now that it's not as easy for someone like her as it is for me though.
Either way, I need a break now. I knew I'd get to this point eventually. Still numb though. I am sure I will crash sooner or later.
I am so tired.
It's odd. I cycle between being angry at her and feeling sorry for her.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
