Have you told her about your changes or have you let her just see them.
I had not told her of changes. I just let her see them. She even mentioned the changes on more than one occasion.
As part of the conversation last night though, I did end up telling her that I have changed a lot and specifically made a point not to tell her. I just wanted her to see them. I said that I am sure that she sees them as empty promises and not lasting. She agreed. She said it is hard to see anything that I do right now as anything other than a tool for me to get my way. I told her that I was hoping that she would stay long enough to see that this is the new reality. I followed that by telling her that I see it's not going to happen now and that I accept that she is going to have to go.
It seems that the main reason that she wants to go is because she knew I wanted her to stay.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
