On a side note, I am noticing a odd pattern here that most of us all have kids with some sort of disability, I know that factored in to my sitch, S12 was a handful for years and unruly during our problems.
I've noticed that too! I was watching an autism spectrum show and they said the D rate is much higher something like 80% on marriages where kids have AS.
I focused so much on the kids and not enough on my marriage. I've learned from that, and try not to do that. My H kind of stayed away all the time and even denied they had any issues even after they were diagnosed with autism. Said when he got them evaluated a few months ago and that confirmed their autism/learning disabilities that at least he found out I wasn't crazy. Like I was making it all up!!!
He and his mom both have learning disabilities and maybe some of the AS too, so maybe he did that to avoid feeling guilty or something. It's nobody's fault though, and I think it would be better if you had parents that could work as a team which we didn't do.
I give him credit though. I emailed him in disgust with that guidance counselor's comments to me and related them. He called the vice principal at the school. He didn't really tell me what was said, but said if I get the records from the speech and occupational therapist today that would help.
I do hope H realizes at some point what he's doing: for a R with a woman already married 3 times (cheated on her 3rd with H). Sad for the kids!, but I think I'll wind up happier in the long run, and he'll be the lone bachelor type eventually.
