Well, stop whining on here. It will help you to make it part of your life. Women are attracted to happy men. Confident me. This would be a good place to practice and become schooled in making it a life long habit. Life is short. Don't be fooled into thinking that "venting" on here is healthy.
Good stuff Gucci. I sat thinking about your words for a while and a bunch of different things went through my mind. First I chuckled a bit that someone would be advising me to practice confidence and work to make it a life-long habit. By anyone's account I am more than adequate in the confidence department. What's interesting is the difference between projecting confidence and really being confident on the inside. The situation with W and MLC has allowed me to open up access to a part of myself that has been closed off for all of my adult life. I grew up oldest of half dozen kids, broken home, depression, etc. and I was forced to step up and assume an adult role at a very early age. As an adult I've been cool and precise in a crisis with no room for emotion. Recently I've opened the floodgates to a lot of emotion and feeling that I hadn't experienced in 40+ years of life. That also means that I'm drinking from the fire hose as a result and figuring out how to control all of that is something I'm still getting a handle on. I'm happy and proud that I am learning and discovering. I'm happy and proud that I'm able to participate on this forum (probably would have been unthinkable a year or two ago). But I have to tell you all, it's one he11 of a lot harder than the old suppress everything and feel nothing approach. LOL..as if you all didn't know that
Still, I am happy and proud!
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AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
