I think the meer act of you putting that stuff on here and thinking about your own needs gave your gf enough of a vibe that she responded. I'd love to see a relationship that wasn't all push/pull, but I think the natural dynamic is that when you draw back, which I suspect you did at some level, she was drawn more toward you. Somewhere in the happy middle, where you attend to your needs and to some of hers, sounds reasonable. I'm glad to hear that you are going slow with things.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
