I was venting earlier on and have managed to make my H sound like an absolute monster haven't I?
We argued on Sat night, (I was the one who started the arguement while he kept on asking me to go and rest because I and the baby needed it but being me, I couldn't let it go). My H is a very positive person and me, I am more pessimistic and he is right in that I complain a lot. Earlier on in our R he did a lot of things for me (and continues to do so) but I never made him feel appreciated, I only complained. I think his need to feel appreciated goes deeper in that he had a poor R with his mum. He was never a favourite and he tried all her life to please her only to be rejected time and again. Thats why when I am not thankful for the little things he does for me he feels it much more than others.
Anyway, on Sun, he was sweet as ever. We went to buy breakfast as usual and then we took our toddler to the park, she's just learned to walk so we took some videos of her stepping out. Later in the afternoon we went to the shopping mall and he was mindful to put his arm around me. In the evening he made some herbal chicken soup for me (this coming from a man who does not even know how to differentiate between onions and garlics) and he made sure I got some good daytime nap by looking after D. On Monday, he came home and asked me, how come I didn't receive any email from you today hon? (we normally email each other quite often to catch up with each other) and I told him "I don't wish to complain".
Although he may have meant some of what he said, its said mostly in anger and frustration so I won't hold it against him. My H is very closed up when it comes to emotional communication, he is very non-verbal and is very uncomfortable in discussing these things. Are most men like that? Was your ex like that too?
Cathy you are right in that I too am ready to sweep the SSM issue under the carpet too the way he wants to do. Its probably the wrong thing to do but right now I have other priorities ie to take care of myself and my baby.
Thanks for your input. Its very much appreciated. LH
