To answer Stronger (still can't figure out how to quote box), last time we had any contact was-
I texted him last Fri night (would have done this to anyone, don't think it was 'pursuit') b/c the priest from our little neighborhood in VA (where we used to live), who also did our marriage prep/confirmation was on Nat'l TV speaking at Kennedy's wake!
I was so surprised that I just texted him: "omigoodnes, Father X is on TV speaking at K's wake...I thought i recognized him"
He texts back"wow crazy stuff. how are you and your mom doing?"
I text back next day simply: "great, thanks. How is L.A.?"
He texts back 2 days later: "LA is good. weather is great. Been pretty busy working w my friends though"
That was our exchange. I have not done anything since. Have not seen since mid-July before he began his travels, and now he's in LA for another week or two, I think.
Y'know...I've been reading Gucci's posts to men about standing their ground. That's essentially what H did before he left...I mean we'd had issues for awhile but it was me who had doubts in the relationship for a bit. I was never going to leave or anything, but he knew sometimes I questioned if we were right for each other, or knew that I wanted a little more time on my own before getting married. He never respected the time I wanted in the early days...kinda pushed me into engagement/marraige before i was totally ready. I loved him, I just wanted a little more time on my own b/c was 24-25 at the time. Anyways, that's been a recurring theme in our marriage and of course the moment he stands his ground and feeling sick of my limbo, that's when I want him back and realize how much I love him. So Gucci's posts to other men worked w me as soon as H stood his ground...however I did not want to separate and he did anyway...and since then he's been doing the partying thing and all. I truly don't know that 'standing my ground' w him would do anything at this point, but saw how it worked w me when H left, I wanted him back.
At this point though he may have just convinced himself to much water under the bridge. i've stopped pleading and everything and for the past 3-4 months have done hardly any pursuit, i wait for him to initiate.
But this is where I am still in limboland, missing my H and wanting him back, but trying to get on w my life, GAL activities, 'let go and let god' to the extent i can.
