Thanks. I have already moved out as of this past Saturday. Things are going well. As an update we were intimate again the night before I moved out and she asked me to sleep in the bed with her that last night. The morning I moved went well and it was rather emotional for me (mostly because of the kids). We had agreed that I should not come by the house for a while to alleviate the kids getting confused.
Well, the night I moved out she sent me a text and asked if her and the kids could come over the next day during the time our realtor was having an open house. Of course I said yes and it went well. I could tell her seeing my palce all setup was a reality shock for her. She was looking at me in that way as if to say "I want to be with you". Later that day I had to go by the house on the way to my friends house to grab some stuff. She asked me to hang out with her for a while but I said no because I had to go. We hugged and kissed and she cried when she walked me out to the car. Later that night she called me and I talked to the kids and we briefly chatted.
Since then she has sent me a few texts and I responded short and concise to each. We saw each other at a social function on Tuesday. I could tell she was watching everything I did and before she left she walked up to me and told me "God, I want to kiss you right now". I smirked and she walked off. Since then we have not spoken but I have called the kids every afternoon before she gets home from work. I miss them so much. My son asked me if I would come home because they miss me. That hurts pretty bad. I am taking my 2yr old daughter to lunch tomorrow and will see all three of my kids for dinner on Monday. Then, I will have all three next weekend for my first "official" visit.
The thing that sucks is I know that there is still a lot of love between my wife and I and this is workable. I am just trying to give her space so maybe she will realize what we are giving up. Basically I am in LC mode with her and I think it will now become a test of wills, which is the way it has to be I guess.
As for my GAL and 180's -
Focus on getting myself into better physical and mental health so I can be a better person AND more importantly a father. Also, to stop being so judgemental about other people and get more patience.
I really am looking forward to the point when my phone rings and I am not hoping it is her. Overall I feel way better at this point than I thought I would but just really do miss my life with her and the kids. I am really looking for advice on how some of you have handled LC with kids and been able to still get your spouse to want you back.
