Can you stop "finding out" information on "their" activities? Maybe you could ask your friends who are filling you in on the latest and greatest gossip about ex and OW should stop. It is not helping you to move on, it just makes you spin like a top.
Seeing as you have had nothing but ugly emails from your EX and OW, why do you not block their address?
It just seems to me that each time you receive something from them you take 3 steps backwards and this is not good for you.
Just my opinion....
(((hugs)))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.