I must tell you that you have made a tragic error in diagnosing what is going on. You have allowed yourself and others to come to the conclusion that your husband is in MLC.
Why? Do you really not see that he is in the midst of an affair? Do you not want to face it? Is it easier to believe MLC because of the fear of facing that he is in the midst of an affair?
I believe you have a wrong diagnosis. Most all of the men who I have ever known are almost without exception in an affair. (very possibly a younger woman) when they are acting as your husband has been acting) ALL of the same signs that you have diagnosed as MLC.
Let me show you the evidence that CONFIRMS without a doubt that you are not wanting to face this.
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I did today find some women's earrings in his pants when I hung them up they fell onto the floor. I know it was wrong, but I mentioned that these earrings had fallen onto the floor and I put them with this watch etc, he shrugged and said he has no idea where they are from or who they belong to.
What does he have to do for you to see what is happening here? By diagnosing him as being in MLC, you are ENABLING his affair. Why are you hurting yourself like this? How can you believe you are going to bust this divorce if you have not diagnosed the correct issue?
Don't guess what is going on, but KNOW what is going on. When a woman finds earrings in her husbands pockets and he has been hiding his cell and mysterious and going on trips all the time and going to restaurants and on and on and on.... IT MEANS HE Is IN AN AFFAIR. There is another woman. Why haven't you diagnosed THAT as the correct diagnosis? Fear? Others on here seem to be enabling and just going along with you on this.
You are allowing him to CAKE EAT. He has the freedom that you will be there no matter what. What a great deal for him. Doesn't do much for you, but he sure has it made. He has you if that doesn't work and yet the freedom to go out and do what he wants when he wants in the meantime. That is enabling.
He is LYING to you. You have accepted his lies and turned this into a self diagnosis of MLC, when in fact you could very well be wrong here. This is exactly how men act when there is another woman.
