Hi Redsox I'm there with you! I left my H for a month, when he dropped the bomb on me. I wish that I had never left. He says that things might have been different if I hadn't gone but I think not. He told me that he had stayed at the airport, crying for an hour after I walked through the departure gate but he didn't call my cellphone and ask me to come back ... what does that say?
I'm back now but H only lasted a few days after I got back before he stirred things up so badly that his prediction of "it won't work with us living together, I am 80% sure" came true. He made that happen - he made himself walk out - he found himself another place to live. He's totally checked out.
I feel exactly as you do. My current silence feels risky and damaging. I'm scared but the experts here tell me to stick it out.
I was glad to come across your post, though I am sad that it means that at least two of us share this boat. Meanwhile, H continues to pursue ow to his belief that he can have a happy and loving life with someone other than me. He has re-written our history - all usual MLC stuff.
Sorry - I don't have any advice to offer to you at this time. Just wanted to empathise and say hi to someone else on the boards.
Guess this is where I tell you to keep the faith and keep posting, right?
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
