The coming to terms with the men that they are now is incredibly difficult. It makes all the good times seem like a lie. You start wondering what was a lie and what was the truth. To this day my H won't own up to most of the cheating and dishonesty. I know it's hard for us. I heard this really good segment on the radio today. It was about what would you say to your lying, cheating husband before you kicked them out. One caller said " I would say thank you for coming into my life showing me the wrong way and then leaving me and freeing me for better things to come." She wasn't nasty or sarcastic, but she said it like she truly meant it. I have to say thank you to H because he has finally made me the strong woman I should have been years ago.
