I'm open to suggestions for what to do about the anger, though - as well as input on how to handle the OW sitch it anything thinks there's a better/ different way to go about it.
It IS ok to feel the anger. Just make sure you control it and not the other way around. I have it from time to time. If I suppress it, that just leads to more anger and resentment. But, if I allow it to run its course, away from W, I have the same experience as you - the anger goes away. Maybe I have a really tough work out or run when I am angry, and then it's all better.
As for what you could do differently, I think GFO and MF have this covered. You are doing fine and YOU, NOT OW, is in your H's house with your S. Who's winning there?
You (and I) just have to keep working at what we have learned and be, repeat after me, patient. Oh, feel free to dole out this same advice to me tomorrow when I have forgotten it.
