True Love or True Fog? Changing Forums

[Silver Fox]

Hi NLT and Karen,

Thanks for checking up on me. Where does the time go? I would have posted news if I had some but I've not heard back from L on a meeting date and absolutely nothing from H either.

Perhaps he's given up on trying to discuss terms with me but if we don't talk between now and the settlement conference it's going to be awfully chilly in that room.

I feel more and more distant from H. I'm at a fairly calm place now, even though some tough decisions have to be made concerning the house, etc. I've read that calmness is a good sign of detachment.

Pearl:

Just curious because I don't know how this works: If you go to trial does that mean that you both present your cases and the judge decides how to split stuff up? Does adultery count as a legal reason to D (meaning cause)?

We could go to trial but it's much more expensive. It's not like we're Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt - we don't have a lot of assets. Adultery is cause for D but H filed first. My L can argue adultery and abandonment as a counter but he tells me that when there's no children, the judges tend to take the easy way out and split everything 50/50. With the adultery charge the judge may give me a little more but probably not as much as I'm asking for.

H is scared to go to court mainly because Catbitch could be called in. I think that both of them are pretty stressed out over this whole drama and God only knows what kind of lies H has told her.

I was thinking of you and wondering what was happening so let us know what the next steps are. If your shoe size is 7.5-8 I can lend you a pair of my kick ass heels to wear to court!

I wear size 6 and I recently bought a pair of red heels precisely for our next meeting but thanks for the offer!