rabbitae....if she really hated you, really wanted out, really was completely sure this is done, she wouldn't agree to meet with you esp. stay the night with you in the same bed. Do you understand that? I have a girlfriend who is divorced, almost two years now. She didn't have the chance to DB. She came home, his stuff was packed and gone already. He took the day off and didn't tell her. Actually got dressed like he was going to work and when she left first, he changed and proceeded to pack and move all day. He said it was over, and left in less than 20 mins and refused to talk about anything. She said she didn't see it coming...but in further conversations, she did but was in denial. They saw each other three more times...once to serve her with the papers, once more to complete their taxes and again when they signed the divorce decree. He would not take her calls. Only communicated with her via email, no texts, no calls. She had to leave voice mails or email him back. And he NEVER called her again except once....to let her know that the dog he took (they had two) was sick and that was a 30 second conversation.
My point is this: When someone is done, they walk. And I know in your case there are kids....but there are ways to be done with kids too and only deal with each other as it relates to those kids.
She's not done, but you still have MUCH work to do. Stay calm. Stay the course. Keep up the good interactions. When there's backlash--BOLT. Say "I had fun last night, hope you did too. I'll see you later. I'll call if I need too." And smile and leave. Make her head spin. And if you know the back lash is coming, get out before she can start it.
