The adventure chronicles

[marriedCrazy]

Don't let it be a rough night. You're in control. Enjoy it; but don't give in. She hasn't done the work to come back yet.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

IGNORE HER.

She needs to feel the consequences of her poor choices.

Puppy

[AFWAW]

Marriedcrazy,
You are right, I am in control--I guess it just feels weird.

Puppy,

Thanks very much, you are right! She does need to feel the consequences of her poor choices. I'm going to bed. I need my rest.

[gucci loafer]

"Are we over for good?" "I'll order pizza for u so you don't have to cook. I guess ur done, huh?" to her last text which only said "Please".

Good time to reply...

Answer: "Yes, we are over for good and I am done. It just isn't going to work between us and I see that now. I don't know what I was thinking before. I'm kinda seeing somebody and want to see where it goes with her."
(she opened the door for you here because she TOLD you to date. You are giving her exactly what she wanted)

Don't offer any more information than what I told you.
You MUST convince her your interest is in someone else now.
Don't backslide.

Then leave her alone. Let the jealousy factor come into play.
This should spark her curiosity and ignite the jealousy button if she has any feelngs for you and get her to finally wonder IF SHE HAS SCREWED UP. (exactly where you have needed her to be for a long long time)

[AFWAW]

Gucci,
Your advice could not have been more timely. I was in the base exchange, checking out and she saw me and tried to corner me. She said, "Are we done?", "Why aren't you answering/returning my calls?" "Are you over me?" Sooooo....I said, "Look, this is not the time or the place however since you're approaching me, I'll tell you, yes I believe we are over and I don't care to be with someone who is so finicky that they don't know what they want from one week to another." (Now the next part was more tricky--remember, I am in the military and I don't want to draw any uneccessary attention to myself that could potentially ruin my career) "I'm talking with someone else right now and want to see how things go with her." I said, "See ya" and turned around and walked away.

That felt pretty good actually. Based on the expression she gave I think I was pretty convincing. Before she approached me, I was talking to a guy I knew in line, and Gucci, I have been listening. I have a great time no matter where I'm at now and I think she saw how I interacted with him. As a matter of fact, I have recieved numerous compliments and have had a lot of attention from females in general based solely on the way I've been acting. LIFE IS GOOD!!! So, we'll see what happens. I actually DON'T want her back right now. And now the shoe is on the other foot.

[spellfire]

This thread is so educational. All men should read it.

Keep up the good work man, you are on the right track.

[AFWAW]

Got an interesting email from the wife at work today after our meeting. She said: "Thank you for not giving me the cold shoulder." "It was good to see you." ????? Ok, I'm confused a little bit and no I didn't respond. Any thoughts on this?

[gucci loafer]

Yes. It is called "treating you with respect"

You have finally shown her that you will NOT tolerate or be with a woman who shows she does not WANT to be with you and will do the necessary things that a woman WANTS to do for a man she loves and respects.

She is now subconsciously respecting you more because you have found a backbone. She was DYING for you to do this a long time ago. Women respect men who don't let them walk on them and are willing to risk the whole relationship if need be.


Keep rejecting her. Don't be mean. Don't be punitive.
Leave her alone. Let her think and believe you are HAPPY to be free of her and have had an awakening and she MAY have lost you for good and that now you are giving your great self to someonge else. (the competition)


Life is good. Have fun. Party hearty. Laugh. Enjoy the moment. Social interaction. Let them chase you...


NO backslides such as asking her to come home.





No response to her latest attempt. Keep her wondering and in the dark on why the change in demeanor. Seems to be working brilliantly. If not. Who cares? You have better fish to fry.

I highly doubt you have heard the last of her.

[AFWAW]

[quote]Yes. It is called "treating you with respect"

So that's what that feeling is. It feels pretty damn good.

Life is good. Have fun. Party hearty. Laugh. Enjoy the moment. Social interaction. Let them chase you...

Life is freaking great! I'm having a blast no matter where I'm at and I'm not BSing you. I have one chasing me right now--hard!

NO backslides such as asking her to come home.

2 months ago and you may have had to worry about this, now, I honestly don't want her to come home. I have money, I get to do what I want, talk to who I want to talk to, flirt with all the women I want, etc. It's amazing how liberating it is when you finally let go.

No response to her latest attempt. Keep her wondering and in the dark on why the change in demeanor. Seems to be working brilliantly. If not. Who cares? You have better fish to fry.

I wasn't even tempted to respond, not even a little bit. And yes, it is working brilliantly. Why didn't I listen to you before Gucci? People out there, you need to listen to this man, he knows what he's talking about. I still think you should write a book.

I highly doubt you have heard the last of her.

And this is where I hope you're wrong...

[AFWAW]

I highly doubt you have heard the last of her.

Well, Gucci, whereever you are, you were right. I had about 10 calls from the wife today all of which I ignored. Very strange how she is all the sudden wanting to talk. I hope this doesn't escalate into something worse.