I am trying to accept that it's already over, that we are all but divorced already.
No. You're not.
You are doing everything else but that. Stop telling everyone here what you think they want to hear. Reread your posts. You are painting a much different picture than you are trying to accept that you are all but divorced already.
I mean now. Right this minute. I am trying to make it ingrained in me, starting today. I will see her for a short while today after work and before I go to the gym. She is nothing more than a roommate now. Tomorrow when we will have to spend time together, I will be pleasant and cordial, and any thoughts of our M or R I will push out of my head. I will treat her as a friend then. During the upcoming weekend I will again try very hard to see her as just a friend. All this time I will be spending time with the boys, of course, but I will also be reading scouting manuals and setting up dates for scouting events and so forth. I have to contact the scoutmaster a few times during the weekend to coordinate things. I will be setting up and breaking down the block party, and during it, I will enjoy time with my friends. Let me just start there. Already for the past two days I have resisted the urge to make up a reason to text W.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
During the upcoming weekend I will again try very hard to see her as just a friend.
Like my cute little guy Yoda said... "Do or do not. There is no try."
It will not happen overnight but it will happen. The point here is that it is a conscious decision. A choice you have to make. And until you make that choice, you will continue spinning your wheels.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Already for the past two days I have resisted the urge to make up a reason to text W.
LOL I remember those days, not laughing at you O...I can't count the number of times I did that, just to hear from her. Trust me it feels better now, way better...You'll get there...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Thanks, VD We are the same age with similar aged children. Have you projected into the future what life would be like after a D? As far as future relationships, and life with your kids.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I think I did an ok job tonight. The boys told me about their day as I played with them, and W clarified for them. She even spoke to me about things not pertaining to the kids. I was pleasant and cordial. When the boys went to bed I excused myself and went to the gym. I was actually too tired to work out, so when I got to the parking lot I called an old friend to catch up. I talked for about 45 minutes. Now I am going to gas up for tomorrow and then go home and go to sleep. I viewed w as a friend and nothing more, and it helped me to keep my emotions in check as I spoke with her.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
