My fear is that it will either make her resent me, or worse, affirm to her that I will be fine, so it is OK for her to leave. I know the answer is that then it IS ok for her to leave.
If she resents you...who cares? Then she was never worthy to be with you. If it affirms you will be fine and she leaves...Who cares? You will be a complete person who doesn't need to depend on another for happiness. The point here is that until you reach the point where you can accept the fact that she may leave and you will be fine with that, you will suffer in your own vicious cycle you have created for yourself.
