Yes, the exercise does tend to help, I need to keep that up. This new drug (Restoril) did a better job last night. Googled it, doesn't look like something to I can use long-term.
Anyway, felt a little more well-rested today. Didn't feel sick to my stomach for once this morning. A little nudge towards normal.
I understand the detachment. It's neccessary to stay sane and to stop pursing.
She's detaching too though. Not crying any more, not saying she's sad, etc. I'm giving her space. We're not supporting each other as we were.
I need to figure out my next steps. Just thinking today, I'm not going to get her to change her mind by just ignoring her, am I? And by doing the dishes and laundry... although that does seem to make an impact on her.
I know, PMA, make attract her by attitude, all that stuff. Last time, trying to create a fun, positive environment in the home went a long way.
I know I need to be patient, I know it's a marathon. I'm not sure right at this moment though I have a plan other than get myself on my feet, spent time with my kids.
It feel to me that the more I detatch, the more we mark time as we slip toward the D being final.
Is it more effective to leave her alone, not talk to her too much, than it is to be around and create positive feelings, since she's somewhat open to it?
She said that she's felt lonely in the marriage. Do I make her feel more lonely? She's already reached out to friends - she's GALing.
So I guess I need to GAL too, that's it. I need to get happy independent of her.
