Posted today in the MLC thread... thought this might be helpful. GG is worried about an up-coming significant day, this is JTB's answer.
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Any thoughts?
Yeah...
When I was a kid, my parents used to take me and drive out to my grandparents house for a big family bash and picnic, but I guess that's not going to happen this Labor Day....so I guess I could be upset with my parents.
Look Golf, That is 3 days away and it is already making you sad...wait...sorry...YOU are making you sad you are allowing it.
Do SOMETHING. Get your mind off of this 'memory' day. Go someplace new find a new resturant. Hike a mountain, check out the Tea Store in Boulder, or Lucilles for lunch.
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Okay, so I guess having expectations just means I'll be disappointed when they don't happen?
Partially right. When your dissappointed or hurt...it is really hard to keep it out of your next interaction with him.
Get rid of your expectations and get rid of your reactions. Like guilt, anger, woe is me sorrow. And yeah you're also not dissappointed.