Not sure if this is MLC but...

[dmkdmkdmk]

So, thinking of laying it out on the table for H... Something along the lines of...

"after our conversation the other day, I have doubts about how amicable settling on a custody situation is going to be. I think 50/50 is an awful thing to put children through - it's disruptive to their lives and there is no sense of having a stable home if they're constantly being ping-ponged back and forth between their parents.

I know you love them as much as I do, and want to see them as much as possible, but I carried them in my body for nine months each, and my mind and body and emotions have been a hormonal war zone for almost three whole years now. I didn't go through all of that to give my babies half of a home. Two halves will never make a whole, and I worry about the long-term affect of all of this on them.

I still think the best course of action is to try living together & being married again before we start talking about how to halve our daughters' lives - I think we've both learned lessons about how to/not to treat each other. I know we're on your schedule as far as your lease, your commitment to the army, and your work schedule, and I can deal with that."