Let's back up a little bit. Why was it necessary for you to wake her up at 6AM?
She asked to either have the alarm clock or to be woken up early. I am already up at that time so it is easier for me to knock on the door.
I am trying to remain friendly. I am not sure if I see a point in cutting off all communication. I have definitely put up boundaries; no more touching, hugging, etc. Is there a good reason to be hostile?
You don't have to remain anything. I told you that if you create a small amount of space between you, she will fill that space, I guarantee it. But when you're friendly and doing things for her, you still communicate that while she is hurting you & disrespecting you (ie. OM) that you will still be there to take care of her and she has to know and you have to know that this isn't reality - how could it be.
When she lives on her own, are you going to call her at 6am to wake her up.
It's got nothing to do with being nice, you are nice, you don't have to do things to prove it and you continually show to her that you do have to prove it, deep down you don't believe that you are nice guy so you have to do things to prove it. How about being confident that you are a great guy and that means not having to prove it.
No more wake up calls, she's an adult, if you can get up at a certain time, I'm sure she can also and how she does this is no longer your responsibility. She has made alot of choices, decisions, taken alot of actions that didn't require your assistance & input, time to let her do everything for herself and realize what life without Tristan really is like.
No one is saying be hostile or argue, in fact don't argue at all - you don't need to, you respect yourself to much to argue with her.
Just let her take care of her.
Plus these ideas of dating you while she is living on her own while what... dating the OM? Great, you need to compete with the OM for her, she is trying to pull you into that type of mindset & thinking - do you see it, didn't you tell her the other day that you don't have to compete with the OM? Her mentioning dating is trying to pull you in, continue to push her away, not in a violent, both hands in front of you type way but in a "you can chase me for a bit now because I'm done chasing you".
When she mentions dating again and she may very well do that, you tell her that you will be dating, you just don't think it will be with her ;-)
You're allowed to ruffle the feathers a bit, lord knows she's been doing a good job with you and look how it's affected your moods, emotions, thinking, etc.
Are you starting to see any of this? Hopefully you are.
