W can't break EA - not sure how to handle it

[Kettricken]

Shouldn't that function work even if the service is discontinued? Or not?

Tristan .... she told you (because I went back and checked) that she wants to move out to explore a relationship with OM. And yet she wants to have you over to "hang out". And when you demur, she gets upset and wants you to justify your position? And you actually defer to your ICs input on the reasonableness of your objections??????

I can't think of better proof that she does NOT get it. That she envisions being able to eat lots of yummy cake. You do *both of you* a favor by standing your ground and disabusing her of that illusion in no uncertain terms.

Stating "I'm not sure when I'll be able to come over" in a way that makes it sounds like you're being petty and "punishing her" for now but might change your mind when you get over your sulk is not standing your ground. As a woman, I would have very little respect for a man who would EVER "hang out with" a wife who moved out to pursue other men. That is NOT a position to justify. It is a position to STATE while looking at her like she has two heads for expecting otherwise. IMHO.

It is NEVER mean, hostile, or unloving to deliver a much-needed reality check in a calm and serious manner.