Hi Lonelywolf, I've been reading the boards and the books for a long time. Thought I would break my silence, and toss in my 2c for you. Some "comments in passing", as it were
You quoted a long letter from your wife, complaining about you.
You said that it was about "10% correct", with the rest being exaggeration.
Women tend to exaggerate problems. but that doesnt mean you can ignore what they are complaining about. They exaggerate to get your attention to the problem. If her complaints are even that 10% correct (although my guess is, they are probably at least 50% correct), you have a lot of work to do on yourself.
To my mind, you have a chance at reconcilliation with your wife. Its a long, hard road, but she has actually POINTED IT OUT TO YOU.
She has taken the time to write down some very specific reasons she does not want to live with you any more. She has also indirectly hinted at how you can rectify the situation (talk to your "bishop", admit how you have treated your wife badly, and ask for a "plan of repentance"). She has also indicated the timeframe she is looking at. 2 months, in her mind, is not enough. My guess is that you are looking at a year of hard work on your side.
If you are serious about it... your wife may come around again.
You say you are "in last resort".
The last resort technique, is supposed to be just that. a Last Resort. And going dark, is NOT the magic fix-all solution.
it seems to me, like you need to not go totally dark. Certainly, you need to back off, and not bother her much. But my suggestion to you, for what it is worth, is to do the things that she has hinted at... with full effort on your part... and then gently and humbly let her know how that is going from time to time.
By all means, if you wish to have time with your children, push for time with them, and protect yourself legally. in my opinion, though, you have a lot more options open to you right now than just "push ahead with divorce".
