Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think Alive is saying you can be a better person, if not for yourself, then for you kids. So it's time to start being the best person you can be.
What would your fantasy game plan be? That means if you were writing this story and you were COMPLETELY in charge of all that happens, including the outcome, what would it be?
You do have a notion as to how to make this easier on yourself. We've been telling you for weeks now....let her be. Back off. When you interact with her be positive.
And honestly, I have no idea what that quote means either. My brain is sort of fried lately.