My children will always come first no matter what! I wasn't worried about my H's reaction it was just that at the time I couldn't take anyone yelling at me, for God's sake I almost lost one of my chilren. That is what I meant.
Kevin,
My son is doing ok right now. He also I believe in a depression and the H leaving topped it off. S got so angry lately and I didn't see it coming. I finally talked him into going to C and his appt. was going to be the following morning. He was and is still just plain depressed about life and mentioned about the H not contacting him since he left and that it hurt big time since H is the one that raised him.
Our D is hanging in there, and it is very stressful this whole mess! I'm worried 24/7 about my S now more than ever! He was released from the hospital on Friday because our insurance ran out. I also believe he was getting in with the wrong crowd. He is 18 but is mentally challenged and is at a 10yr. old mentallity. So this is a very hard struggle for him, to go through a father not being in his life. He did mention when H left to our D not to worry, this is the second dad that left him. My heart aches for him.
I'm not blaming my H for this but I love when people say that divorce or separation doesn't hurt children and they are strong enough to get over it. My MIL is one of them. Now look!
Please keep us in your prayers, as I keep everyone on this site in mine. God is probably tired of hearing me, especially this week. Thought I was really losing it, was afraid I was having a breakdown.
I will definitely keep yall in my prayers. And God never gets tired of hearing you. Don't believe that for a minute. God tells us to pray persistantly. I don't think he would say that if he got tired of hearing us.
I can attest that divorce/separation does hurt kids as I see the hurt in my kids also. The WAS never wants to believe that or admits it, but doesn't care enough anyways. My W has admitted that our situation is shattering our kids world, but doesn't seem to let it affect her decision. Its hard when you see your kids world being shattered and the WAS continues on with their decision.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Is there anyone out there that thinks I made a mistake or did the right thing by sending H the letter that I wrote to him? I have it posted what I basically said on this thread. Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated.
You said that you and your H were each married prior to this?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
What happened in your prior M? What became of your first H?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
First H cheated, turned to drugs. I tried to get him help and so did my father God rest his soul but nothing worked! He became physically abusive to me and our S. Not knowing who our S even was at the time.
It was so scary!!! I tried and tried but it was getting to be so dangerous with people looking for him for their money etc. Had my purse stolen out of our home. You name it, it happened!
From what I saw 2yrs. ago he is still hooked big time, in and out of jail, and living in homeless shelters and with friends (I guess from jail).
God is not mad at you. Never forget this. God loves you no matter what. You have enough pain and suffering right now, you don't need to carry that as well. You don't need to carry it because it doesn't exist. Trust me.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
