I think one of the main fears I have about this new BF is that since he could possibly be spending more time with my son than I am, he could become a huge part of his life and make me almost redundant. It's probably a silly fear as I take on board what you say about the possibility of this R being bigger in my head. I've always been one to look at the worst case scenario though. They're going to be doing all the family things together which I really believe Wee Man needs whereas when I see him, it will just be the two of us and never as long as I would like. It's my son's age that worries me too. Because of the limited access I have to my son, I'm worried that he starts to see the BF as more of a father figure than me. He's too young to understand fully and if they make a connection I could all of a sudden become a minor player in his eyes. That's the ultimate fear anyway. Hopefully it will never go that far but I just wanted to vent my fears a little.
On a positive note, my FIL is coming to visit tonight and my MIL says she's looking forward to catching up soon over a glass of wine. I don't even know if they've met the BF yet but I'll certainly not be bringing it up in conversation. I long ago realised that as pleasant as they are with me, they're never going to take my side over their daughter.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
