The discussions betweens God's plan and free will are very confusing.
I think of the conversion of St. Paul. I am no Biblical scholar, but if I recall correctly, Saul was on the way to harm Christians and God spoke to him. Changed his heart. His heart was not open. God opened it.
I have prayed for this miracle. It hasn't happened. Some other things that I have prayed for have happened though. Clear intervention. Amazing stuff.
Yeah, that's where it gets confusing and sometimes discouraging. Miracles happen out there to other people, but what about us? Where's our miracle? I don't have an answer, really, except that there are things we don't understand. Yep, God knocked Saul right on his a** (or was that off his a** of the donkey type?) and wouldn't we like to see the same happen to our wayward spouses?! I just keep hanging on this: Jeremiah 29:11 "'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for good and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.'" Someday we will understand more.
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