I think part of my issue with the OW is just that he waited so long to tell me much of anything. I got everything a piece at a time over several weeks, which made it feel new every time I found out another piece of info. It's hard to move forward while still getting mini bombs. Plus, you can only choose to believe and to trust. You can never know 100%. I'm sad that pureness is gone from our relationship, but I am trying to take this an opportunity to make our marriage stronger.
I just requested the book you mentioned from my library. When we agreed to a fresh start, we agreed it never happened. It was funny last night he made a couple wry/joking references to how this month has been. I was surprised.
Me 34 H 37 Kids 7 & 4 Married 12yrs, together 17 Kiss/EA lasted 2 weeks. NC since 8/7