I read so much about clingyness and neediness and I have to be careful here too. I never knew it was such an issue for women. I thought they were always looking for someone more sensitive and emotionally available. I've always tried to share my thoughts, dreams and fears with W much as it sounds like you have. I thought love is unconditional. W is supposed to love me forever. I shouldn't have to act like "Billy Badass" and try to impress her like I am wooing a 19 year old kid. I'm married to an adult woman who would appreciate me for providing, sacrificing, helping around the house, being a good father, keeping fit, and communicating thoughts and feelings with her.
Clingy and needy does not equal sensitive and emotionally available. The connection is gone. To remedy this you are the one who signed up to do the work. You wife is not here asking for advice. We can only respond to you.
You are being watched right now. If you crumble under the stress it will validate her opinion of you currently. You control your thoughts, emotions, feelings and actions. You can waste all the energy you have wondering what she is thinking, why she acting this way and what her next move is, or you can thrive for yourself and show her what she is missing. The choice is yours. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
