Divorce not busted 3

[Orich]

I am going to concentrate on at least one aspect of detaching that I think I can resolve. It occurs to me that almost every positive sign I have gotten from W was through text message. So, every time by phone beeps, I jump and my heart leaps, ultimately though, it only crashes back down when I find it is either someone else, or her without the message I am hoping for. I took the audible beep off the phone, so I will only look at the phone for messages once or twice during the day. If anyone needs me in an emergency they can either call my cell or my work phone. It's a small thing, but since I noticed it I realize it is something I can start to do.
BTW, I will not confront her on the facebook thing or the absence of her wedding rings. I won't even try to explain my parents' actions to her. If she opens up during our weekend, I will bring them up then. But for now, I am the strong silent type. As soon as the kids went to bed last night, I high-tailed it to the gym. When I returned she was in bed reading a book. I told her I was going to watch TV in the living room for a little while. Before I said this, I really contemplated asking her if she wanted to talk about anything. But I didn't. I watched TV, and she went to sleep.
I want to try to at least be on friendly terms going in to the weekend. If we go in there less stressed, maybe it will go better. Any thoughts on this? Our annual block party is this weekend, an event we both enjoy. I want to enjoy it this year as well. Maybe I should initiate a light conversation here and there?
Tomorrow night she is going out with friends and I am going to my IC. My parents are coming over to watch the kids. Should my folks say anything to her? They are hurting, too, and want to reach out to her. So far I have asked them not to. Would it be pursuing on my part if they talked to her about them, not me and her?
Thanks again.