It's so counter to what I have always thought to do. I always thought that a woman would want to be fought for, told "I'll never give up on you." Guess not.
There is some truth in your statement. But, I have come to realize they want someone they RESPECT to fight for them. A woman will not love a man she does not respect. I'm proof of that. What are the things that caused her to lose respect for you? Not all your fault, but if you can change those, you can start earning back her respect.
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I am sure that there are a ton of women out there who would love to have a guy like me. I have a lot to offer. It just seems so wrong to even go with that thought though. I got married to be with only one woman for the rest of my life.
SO DID I. But, the woman I am roomates with right now is NOT the woman I M'd. Same goes for you. I don't think there is anything wrong with envisioning what might be in the way of another woman in your life in the future. For me, I chose not to act on that thought while I'm M'd. But, nothing wrong with considering the possibility.
And, ask yourself, what if in 6-12 months from now, I AM in a R with a beautiful, fantastic, warm, caring woman? How will I feel then when I look back on how I am feeling right NOW?
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Still surreal. Still numb. Still waiting to wake up and have my W tell me this is all a bad dream.
I understand this, b/c I have been there. So have MANY people here. It is surreal. It does feel like you are living a nightmare. This, too, shall pass.
Get your grief out, then get back to working on you and detaching. You will find strength you never knew existed. You will be a better person. You will like yourself more than you ever have before.
