UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

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Hi Eskimo,
I havent been around for awhile but was here today and read your post. I just wanted to reply that I did actually say what you hope to say to your STBX. I know he heard me but was not interested in my revelation and it did not appear to provoke any thinking on his part. I felt I said what was on my heart, but wonder if it hurt me in the long run. We are still separated with no glimmer of hope at reconciling at this point. I'm holding on though. It's best for me to stay dark except when we have to talk about the kids. My STBX is a pretty tough nut to crack!