I have so many unanswered questions. How long before watching the person you love with OM begins to cause irreparable damage and hurt (I always feel the need to remind people here that I originally walked out on her and am now asking her to reconcile)? How many people doing this technique actually save their marriages and of those how many can we truly attribute to this approach? Are we just coaching ourselves and each other toward healing under the false pretense that we'll save our marriages? If so, it seems like there are easier ways to heal.
You are not alone. I have all of these questions too. It seemed to work for Robx. He is the only one that I know attributed to saving his marriage this way. But I know the opposite approach did not work for me all that well either. I'm not sure I have any other option.
