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OK, I've only been doing this for 3 days but it feels horrible. I've backed communication down to almost the nothing. Just the minimum about the kids, etc. W probably thinks I'm, punishing her for going to the memorial this weekend. Her communication via email and text has backed way down and become short. She's also seeming short and angry/irritated/unhappy when I've talked to her. I'm headed into a long weekend where I'm taking the kids away and all I can think about is how I'm setting things up for OM to come in and make her feel good and win her over some more. I need to better understand how this is going to play out. It feels wrong and risky. I'm scared.

I have so many unanswered questions. How long before watching the person you love with OM begins to cause irreparable damage and hurt (I always feel the need to remind people here that I originally walked out on her and am now asking her to reconcile)? How many people doing this technique actually save their marriages and of those how many can we truly attribute to this approach? Are we just coaching ourselves and each other toward healing under the false pretense that we'll save our marriages? If so, it seems like there are easier ways to heal.

I'm just sad today and I don't want to lose the person I love. I'm tired of waking up and crying every morning.